We All Have Choices, Irrespective Of Our Conditions
I want to ask you a question so simple that you may not have asked it before: Are you happy being alive? Do you feel a sense of joy when you wake up each morning? Do you look forward to the day or is your outlook filled with dread, worry or anxiety? Ponder this over the coming paragraphs as I try to convince you why it is never too late to rediscover your joy and fall in love with being alive.
There’s a wonderful deal that occurs beyond our conscious mind that we are unaware of. Because of this, it’s important we make time for self-enquiry to see what is happening beneath the surface. I liken it to a pot that simmers before it comes to a boil. By then the temperature has increased, which reflects what takes place in our own lives. If a situation isn’t given our focus, it will simmer beneath the surface and reach a boiling point. It may be tricky to find our way back to peace and harmony due to the disruption to our lives. Some people today believe life is difficult and don’t experience joy and happiness, even though it landed in their lap. This is because they’re mired in their misery that becomes their default setting and they view any change as unfamiliar.
We all have options, regardless of our conditions, our past and present conditions. We can choose joy and fall in love with being alive as it is one of the most precious gifts we are given. Something happens to a person at a certain stage in their life. They come to appreciate the value of life that can be removed from us in any moment. When we are young, we have the world ahead of us and do not think much into the future. Nevertheless, the future arrives faster than we realise and soon enough we are middle-aged and time has passed us by. Reflect in your life, how has the last affected who you are now? Perhaps you have experienced challenging moments or turning points that shaped how you are today?
Remember. Release. Renew
Whilst it’s stated the last needn’t determine where we are headed, we create a prosperous future by referencing the past through a new landscape. We do not have to drag the past along with us like a weary ornament, but see it through the eyes of compassion and forgiveness. We need to take what is valuable in the past to change our experience of the future. You aren’t defined by your past any more than what happened to you yesterday. The past has taken place but from this current moment, it’s a figment of our imagination. We cannot touch, see, nor experience it but merely replay it in our heads. It was the Japanese Buddhist priest Nichiren Daishonin who once stated:”If you would like to comprehend the causes that existed before, look at the results as they are manifested in the present. And if you want to understand what results will be shown in the future, look at the causes that exist in the present.”
It’s possible to experience exuberant joy and fall in love with being alive, no matter what has occurred in our life. The barriers and challenges we experienced aren’t the impediments but are in reality the manner . Our pain, hurt and distress are the keys to cure what is buried deep inside us. The way out through pain and heartache is not to run away from it or keep it deep inside our mind since that makes it come back stronger. To overcome the wounds of the past needs us to experience them today in the present moment through the eyes of compassion and forgiveness . These higher vibrational states that are bestowed in love are the soul’s eyes looking at itself via a canvas of love and equanimity.
I often mention to coaching clients and audience members a three-word mantra to describe this process: Remember. Release. Renew. So we recall the past, however instead of witnessing it through the eyes of suffering and pain, we rewrite a new script through the eyes of forgiveness and compassion. To release means to forego disempowering thoughts or emotions associated with the past since we can’t make a new future with these negative states following us. Renew invites us to love the lessons imbued in those experiences, so we can view them through a new lens. If we wish to rediscover joy and fall in love with being alive, we must give up that which impedes upon this way of life. Only then will we discover the fountain of joy that has been living in us all this time.