OMG thank you for this. This is spot on. I I have now figured when my head gets in the way of THEIR behavior I need to step back and say I AM ENOUGH. I have done the best I could in the challenging circumstances that we dealt with early on. My kids are now 39 and 35. They will figure it out. My grandchildren are all that matter to me and my relationship with them. I just need to keep my experience and advice to myself LOL I just smile and wave now. Thank you for letting me vent:)