Thank you!!!! I needed to see this today. It's reassuring to see that I am not alone in my experience of feeling that my adult daughter is indifferent to me. Weeks, and sometimes months, will pass without hearing from her, and my infrequent texts or e-mails go unanswered unless it's for something that she wants me to do. When we do speak on the phone it is because I've reserved time (which is fine) but I am limited to 30 minutes and then she ends to call. She does not ask about my life or show any interest in what I'm doing. I am fortunate that she is financially secure, so is not asking for money. All I would truly love is having a relaxed relationship with some feeling of connection. On the rare times that we are together, I tread very lightly so that I don't say or do anything that could be construed by her as criticism or disapproval. Her distain for me is just always under the surface - she will become sarcastic or angry at the smallest thing. I find, in those cases, that I freeze rather than respond and risk having her twist the situation to find a way to blame me for "starting a fight." After encounters on the phone or through rare visits, I leave feeling exhausted, inadequate, and sad, wondering "why?" Thanks to all who have responded to this post - your support is valued more than you know.